{"id":1397,"date":"2017-10-05T16:27:50","date_gmt":"2017-10-05T20:27:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/?p=1397"},"modified":"2017-10-05T16:27:50","modified_gmt":"2017-10-05T20:27:50","slug":"when-a-doctor-becomes-a-caregiver","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/when-a-doctor-becomes-a-caregiver\/","title":{"rendered":"When a Doctor Becomes a Caregiver"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Syed-pic.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-665 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Syed-pic-150x150.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Quratulain Syed, MD<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #800080;\">Assistant Professor of Medicine<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #800080;\">Division of General Medicine and Geriatrics<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #800080;\">Emory University School of Medicine<\/span><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Late last year, I encountered the realities of caregiving personally. Although my father had officially retired, he was still working as a professional banker at the time he was diagnosed with an advanced cancer. I have over 6 years of experience practicing geriatric medicine, where I am used to giving bad news to patients and caregivers, and lecturing caregivers on caregiver stress.\u00a0 However, none of this had prepared me for the roller coaster ride awaiting me and my family during my father\u2019s illness.<\/p>\n<p>I was lucky to have the privilege of playing the \u201cdoctor card\u201d as a caregiver.\u00a0 I got consultative advice from colleagues and friends whenever I needed it, and had access to medical experts who were beyond supportive and courteous in providing care to my father. Despite all of this, however, my administrative assistant\u2019s comment that \u201cyou are falling apart\u201d truly expressed my state of mind. The last six months of my father\u2019s life gave me an in-depth view of the invaluable role of caregivers, who navigate a very complex health care system, often without having a medical background.<\/p>\n<p>In this blog, I\u2019d like to share a few tips from caregivers\u2019 literature, which I found helpful:<!--more--><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Acknowledge that you can\u2019t hold up the sky like <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Atlas_(mythology)\">Atlas<\/a>. Do not hesitate to get help, early on.<\/li>\n<li>You are never alone. Do not hesitate to share your feelings with people around you\u2014they may be your family, friends, colleagues, clinicians, etc. You may also consider caregiver support resources offered by the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/aging-and-health-a-to-z\/topic:caregiver-health\/\">American Geriatrics Society<\/a>, the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.alz.org\/\">Alzheimer\u2019s Association<\/a>, the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cancer.org\/\">American Cancer Society<\/a>, and other such organizations.<\/li>\n<li>Do not feel guilty in taking a little time out for yourself every day (or at least a few times a week). It can be in the form of a 10-minute trip to a caf\u00e9, half an hour at the gym, or a five minute meditation ritual at bedtime.<\/li>\n<li>Make sure you get optimal sleep everyday, even if it involves switching when you sleep, and sharing some duties with other caregivers.<\/li>\n<li>Make sure you get the best nutrition you can. You need to be healthy to take care of your loved one.<\/li>\n<li>Have a discussion with your loved one about their wishes. Talk about medical care, financial issues, and end-of-life rituals before it is too late. You can get assistance from the medical team in completing healthcare <a href=\"http:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/aging-and-health-a-to-z\/topic:advanced-directives-advanced-directives\/\">advance directives<\/a>, and from a lawyer regarding the financial will.<\/li>\n<li>Consider grief counseling after the death of a loved one. Hospice agencies often provide grief counseling.<\/li>\n<li>Connecting with spirituality can help with healing. My personal favorite is a poem <a href=\"http:\/\/rumi-poem.blogspot.com\/2013\/02\/when-i-die.html\">\u201cWhen I die\u201d, written by the Sufi poet Rumi<\/a>. I have shared my favorite lines below:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 240px;\">&#8220;It seems like a sunset<br \/>\nbut in reality it is a dawn<br \/>\nwhen the grave locks you up<br \/>\nthat is when your soul is freed&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I hope you have found these tips helpful, and I look forward to reading additional tips that you may want to share with other caregivers as well.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Quratulain Syed, MD Assistant Professor of Medicine Division of General Medicine and Geriatrics Emory University School of Medicine Late last year, I encountered the realities of caregiving personally. Although my father had officially retired, he was still working as a &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/when-a-doctor-becomes-a-caregiver\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[4],"tags":[45,7],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1397"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1397"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1397\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1399,"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1397\/revisions\/1399"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1397"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1397"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healthinaging.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1397"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}